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All scriptures are taken from NKJV unless otherwise marked.
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”
-Colossians 3:12 NIV
Patience is lacking in our world today. People are so quick to get mad and curse someone out if they did an action they didn’t agree with. I saw a video of this lady yelling at McDonald’s team members because they were out of cookies. It was extremely sad because humans are not perfect (and as someone who used to work in fast food, things run out from time to time). Under the video, the comment section was filled with people who were rooting her on. They were saying things like, “I know that’s right!” and “That will teach them.”
Especially in a work situation, people are usually trying their best with what they are given. I remember one night of work, there was a limited supply of chicken (due to a lack of management). I was the shift leader that night and countless people spoke very nasty to me. It wasn’t my fault! I was doing the best I had with the little that remained. The few people who were still sweet to me refreshed my inner man. That was a HORRIBLE night of work!
Because of that job I had, I grew A LOT in patience. It takes a great amount to agitate me. But even I have my moments where I feel like I’m gonna lose it. That’s because we aren’t meant to deal with situations in our own strength. When we’re connected to the Holy Spirit, we have the ability to wait like He does. Try these things next time you’re in a trying circumstance.
Take A Deep Breath
“When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.”
This in itself can help relieve a bad situation. Most people I know struggle with road rage. Well, most don’t even know that it’s a struggle. They think it’s normal. Growing up, my mom would flip out on other drivers. Name calling, middle fingers, yelling, I mean it was BAD. After I got saved, it began to bother me. Just because they’re driving slower than you’d like them to doesn’t make them a bad person. So I decided I would NOT be that way. When someone does something stupid while driving, I take a deep breath and re-focus on my driving. (I pray before driving, too! There’s some really dangerous drivers out there.)
God is omni-present. That mean He’s everywhere. He’s in the very air we breathe. Fill up on the goodness of God by taking a deep breath.
Believe The Best In Others
“Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].”
-1 Corinthians 13:7 AMP
Everyone faces their own issues. We could never read someone’s mind or know exactly what it is they’re facing. They could be going through a break up, a divorce, a death of a loved one, the possibilities are endless. We truly have no clue what people are going through. Keep that in mind the next time someone acts unbecomingly.
Also, whenever someone treats you badly, try praying for them. That guy that cut you off may cause an accident. Pray over him, whoever’s in his car, and his property. Just because he’s acting reckless doesn’t mean an innocent person should pay the price for it.
Next time you’re in line at the grocery store and turns out your cashier is the newest one, be polite. Can you remember what it was like your first day at work? Nothing comes overnight and the new technology can be very confusing. Plus, I’m sure your patience and sweetness refreshes their soul like those few customers I mentioned above.
Psalm 103 verse 8 states that the Lord is slow to anger. We should follow His example. I double dog dare you to attempt to go a whole day without losing your cool. Tell me how it goes with #patiencedoubledare.
This is similar to a soldier putting on his armor before a battle. Things can get a little out of hand and we ought to be prepared. It’d be foolish for a soldier to try to put his armor on during the battle. Likewise, pray that if things happen to not go your way today, could handle it professionally.
“A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.”
-Proverbs 15:18 NIV
With enough practice and exposure to trying circumstances, you could eventually be the one who calms others down. That’s a great way to represent the Lord. I believe a lot of situations can be diffused, but the majority of the people egg them on, pull out their phone, and scream “WORLDSTAR!” It’s a sad world we’re living in today, indeed.
Create An Arsenal Of Scriptures
It’s a great idea to put powerful scriptures on the wall. Everywhere you know they will stick out. The fridge, the mirror, in the drawers, above wall sockets, above the sinks, I mean, anywhere and everywhere. When you repeat scriptures over and over, they begin to seep down into your inner man and become a part of you. The one that really helped me was, “Be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath, for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God (James 1:19-20).”
I can give you some to start with, but I really suggest you continue the list with meaningful scriptures.
“You also be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is at hand”
“Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage- with great patience and careful instruction.”
2 Timothy 4:2 NIV
“Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer; distributing to the needs of the saints, given to hospitality.”
“We glory in tribulations also; knowing that tribulation worketh patience; and patience, experience; and experience, hope.”
Romans 5:3-4 KJV
“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.”
“He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.”
I hope this article helped you. It brings me joy that you want to better your walk with God. Keep in mind that these things inevitably take time. Imagine the farmer who waits patiently for his seed to bring forth fruit. You’re on your way to become a tree of righteousness!