Are you depressed? I sure hope not! Depression causes a wave of negative emotions to capture our mind and body into a deadly state. Before we get into how depression affected me, let’s take a look at some alarming statistics:
- 300 million people around the world have depression. 
- 16.2 million adults in the United States (6.7 percent of all adults in the country) have experienced a major depressive episode in the past year. 
- It’s estimated that 15 percent of the adult population will experience depression at some point in their lifetime. 
Why do we care if someone is suffering from depression? Because very often, depression does not end there. It can very much evolve into suicide. Take a look.
- 44,000 Americans die by suicide each year. 
- 8 out of 10 people considering suicide give some signs of their intentions. 
- Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States. 
We are responsible for the earth and all its inhabitants. If we don’t take care of each other, who will? People shouldn’t be divided. We should all recognize one another as the family we are and should strive to make the world we live in a more enjoyable one for the sake of the human race.
Anyhoo, depression hit me hard around the age of 14. I went through all the motions and even attempted suicide.
Q: Why did you feel depressed?
A: There were many reasons for the way I felt, but I can sum it all up in the sense that I felt lost. I had no clear goals or desired outcomes in my life, no idea what my purpose was, and I felt like no one cared about me. I was learning things that caused me a lot more harm than good.
If you’re still curious: I was a chronic marijuana and tobacco user who became dependent upon these things. Alcohol was something I used whenever possible also. I felt unloved and tried to find comfort in males by giving them intercourse thinking that would make them love me. When all these things failed to give me lasting joy, I began self-harming and tried to throw in the towel. Ultimately, I felt insignificant.
How Did I Feel When I Was Depressed?
I felt like I was constantly under a dark cloud. There was always a sense of sadness and I cried a lot. Thinking back, I remember I just wanted to be happy. I guess it’s safe to say that I didn’t know how to be happy. I felt like no one care and because of that, I had decided I wouldn’t care about anyone else. Another way I tried to become significant was by mocking the celebrities I had idolized, but their horrible lifestyles just led to more unhappiness.
The night I tried to commit suicide, I remember I didn’t want to deal with the pain anymore. I thought it would just be easier to end it all. I can honestly say that deep down I didn’t want to do this, but I had no idea of another way to cope and overcome the pain. I’m sure glad it was a failed attempt and now I can help you through your struggles.
I’m going to share the things I wish I knew when I was depressed that I believe would have helped me. Therefore, I believe they will help you, but they all revolve around one point. If you don’t get anything else out of this post, please remember this. It can completely change your life like it has mine. Are you ready?
Your life is a reflection of your thought patterns. If you change the way you think, you will change your life.
It may sound simple or cliche, but I know for a fact that this works. Everything we do once began as a thought. The tips I’m going to provide you with are all connected to thought patterns. If we can change your mind, we can defeat depression! Just give it a try
1. Always live with your future in mind.
One of the major issues I can recognize with my former self is that I had no idea what I wanted out of life. I didn’t know what I was good at or what I can bring into this world. This made me feel worthless! Spend some time and think about your talents. What are you good at? How can you use your gift or talent to make yourself feel better or to help others?
What do you want out of life? Set some goals, even if they’re small. The feeling of achieving a goal is an awesome feeling and it persuades you to achieve more. Also, if you have a strong enough reason to live, you’ll be more likely to push through the hard circumstances into better, brighter days.
2. You can do anything!
This was something I learned recently and it’s absolutely amazing! Humans are strong beings who can accomplish anything they truly, earnestly desire. Try this: Set a goal. It can be small or big. Just pick one you really want to do. Write it down and keep it in your mind. As the days go by, you’ll begin to brainstorm ways and tactics to achieve this goal. When you accomplish things, it not only makes you happy, but it makes you feel strong.
3. You have a purpose.
You are special and unique. God (or the universe – whatever you believe) placed you here at this moment for a reason. You have greatness inside of you that the world is waiting to receive.
4. Problems are to make you stronger.
Whenever you encounter an issue, the core reason is to make you stronger. God, or the universe, is not picking on you. For you to fulfill your purpose, you need the necessary strengths and skills. When you conquer these problems, you’ll be stronger than before and won’t encounter this problem again because you’ll have the answer. By growing in knowledge, you’re going in strength.
5. Exercise combats depression.
Exercising is the most cost-effective way to fight depression. Not only are the health effects are too many to count, but it also helps you feel stronger and healthier. By obtaining a stronger body, you’ll experience a boost of confidence that’s sure to help you feel happier.
6. Do something for someone else.
Most of the time, we become depressed because we’re constantly thinking about the way we feel. However, studies show that by removing yourself from your mind and doing something for someone else, you can instantly improve your mood. There are many people out there who need help, just like you. By helping someone else meet their need, you’re sowing a seed for the same to be done unto you.
Although it may seem like it, life isn’t all about us. There are billions of other people who share this planet with us. By reaching out and helping others, we can build bridges and make more friends who can help us when we need it. Having healthy relationships is one way you can increase your chances of defeating depression.
7. Pick up a new hobby.
This really helped me when I was trying to get through depression. By getting your mind off of what is currently ailing you, you can reduce the amount of pain you feel. Plus, by creating or learning something new, you can experience a spark of happiness.
These tips can really help if you apply them to your life. But I want you to know that no matter what, depression is no joke. If you’re having suicidal thoughts, please don’t hesitate to call the suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255. If you’re contemplated harming yourself, you can also call your local emergency room. You’re worth so much more than you can imagine and this battle will not stop you from achieving your full potential.
If you find yourself living under that gloomy, depression cloud, try the things I’ve mentioned:
- Always think of your future
- Set goals
- Understand that you’re here for a reason
- Come up with solutions to your problems
- Help someone
- Try a hobby or learn something new
By changing your thought patterns, you can evict the harmful depression thought that are disrupting your life. Your life is worth it! Make the decision that you’ll never quit!